My top goal this year is to birth my creative child, “The Invisible Child,” I’ve been carry for more than 10 years,#WriterWednesday
Be Fearless, Prayer makes Breakthroughs happen, and Affirmations empowers your desire to achieve #transformationTuesday
Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it. Begin it now.” ~ Goethe
Don’t sabotage yourself under the false belief that you need approval from others. God made you perfect. #Tuesday transformation
Now It Begins author, Gary Markwick , says, “We all have self power, and now is the time to use it, as great changes are now happening within a new vibration shift, raising our levels of consciousness to a higher frequency of awareness and understanding.”
It is now 2016. What are your ambitions for this year? Goals help us conceptualize our purpose for existing and, by extension, establish a connection between the person and the life they live. How involved are you in your life? Here are eight concepts that have the ability to change fleeting desires into life-changing opportunities.
- Goals transform emotional, mental, and physical needs into life affirming behavior
Goals have many important benefits; they prepare us mentally and emotionally to act out our commitments. They help us express confidence in our ability to achieve our needs. A goal setter affirms that they are in control of their life and they are responsible for making things happen. When an individual takes charge of their life, they project a positive self-image. By committing yourself to a goal and working to achieve it, you are expressing that you see yourself as a person worth fighting for and you are actively pursuing a life you value.
- Goals provide a focus for our energy.
Goals are tools to focus our energy in positive areas. They can be changed, dropped, added, and prioritized in any given way. We need help establishing priorities. It is important for us to be involved in and committed to worthwhile objectives, mainly because striving to meet these goals gives meaning to life. When setting goals, don’t focus entirely on the “how.” Instead, know that the same spirit that gave you the desire will fulfill the desire.
- We are responsible for understanding our needs and setting reasonable goals to meet them.
Goals are simple statements of what you perceive your present needs to be. When you understand your needs, you become a victor instead of a victim. When writing goals, think of what it is you want; take into consideration every facet of personhood. People are made for so much more than superficial commodities. Understand that you are a mental, physical, and spiritual being, and also understand that each of these components require attention and care. In becoming aware of this, include goals that address personal growth, health, relationship, vocation, material needs and any other needs that may be unique to you personally.
- Make your goals specific and concrete.
Create a clear picture of your intentions. In other words, pursue an understanding of why you want the things you strive for. Once you have established your intentions, keep them private to prevent them from being weakened by the seemingly inevitable negativity around us. By doing so, you can stay focused and set goals to help change your intentions into action. If your goal is something easily measured, like financial gain, be specific. Are you going to ask for a raise, get a part time job, distribute your resume, or invest in stock? Additionally, give yourself a realistic time-table. Be generous when making your time table, but also make it short enough that it requires you to start as soon as possible.
- Make your goals measurable.
Remember, goals need to be measurable so you can be aware of when they are met. You need to state specific, measurable goals and make explicit how much you want to accomplish the goal in order to feel that your goal is being met. State clearly and concisely what it is you want. If your goal is something easily measured in numbers, state one clear numerical goal. If your goal is less material, make sure there is a clear and understandable end in mind.
- Be realistic when making goals.
The more realistic you are the more successful you will be. Make goals that align with your abilities and available power. Don’t make a goal that is out of your control or that has to be given to you. Make the goal something that you have the power to accomplish for yourself. Making your goals attainable can be the difference between a good intention and a real action.
- Set different types of goals.
Perhaps set three goals to achieve in three months, three goals to achieve in six months, and three goals to achieve in one year. It’s imperative to set a few easier, short-term goals so you can know a bit of immediate gratification and gain early encouragement to continue. Long-term goals express objectives that typically take more time, energy and resources to achieve. Break down long-term goals into manageable steps. For instance, if your long-term goal is to plan a vacation, list what steps of action will be included. They could be things like setting up a vacation fund, getting brochures, doing online research, speaking to people who have been to different locations, choosing a destination, choosing a hotel, choosing activities, etc.
- Dare to dream.
The more obscure, interesting or personal your goal, the more exciting and satisfying the process will be. Most people live exceptionally conventional lives. Believe me when I say, you do not want to be one of these people. Don’t be afraid to dream, but be careful when talking with others about your dreams and goals. Remember, you do not want to take on the dreams of others for yourself. The dreams that come about naturally are the ones that will always be closest to your heart.
If you want support writing, planning or being held accountable with your goals, contact me. I would love to hear from you!
Happy Goal Setting and Achieving in 2016.
Christmas is a time of joy, good cheer, and giving. Sometimes, the most unexpected gifts come from angels on earth. Once, God sent an unlikely Christmas Angel to make “peace on earth” a reality in my life.
My mind was occupied by what was apparently an impossible task— to somehow find enough money to purchase two brand-new bicycles. Perhaps, I thought to myself, next month I can pay only half of the rent.
So, I did the only thing I could do. I knelt near the fichus tree, visualizing two brand-new bicycles. I imagined my girls squealing with delight as they saw their wondrous Christmas presents.
There was only one more option, so I dropped to my knees again and began to pray: “Father, you said in your word, Matthew 7:7, ‘Ask and you shall receive.’ I’m asking. Please, Lord.”
A week passed. Though I prayed every day, God didn’t seem to reply. Oh well, I thought, we’ll just have to have a Christmas without gifts this year. The girls will understand.
It was six o’clock in the morning and I was getting ready to go to work when the phone rang.
“Mrs. Williams?” a voice said. “It’s Matthew.” Oh no! My landlord. I shivered a bit. It’s as if he was reading my mind. “Listen,” he said. I pressed the phone closer to my ear and heard paper shredding. “That is the sound of your December rent check.”
My mouth dropped open.
Matthew said, “My wife and I decided we didn’t need the money and wanted to give your family a gift. We couldn’t decide on what you might like, so we decided to tear up the check. The rent’s on us this month. Merry Christmas!”
That’s my Christmas Angel story. But now, we want to hear yours.
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Are you in the market for reading some life-changing books on Overcoming Adversity?
Three of the best books I read this year and would like to encourage you to read are:
- The Phoenix: Rising From The Ashes, author Dian Griffin Jackson, opens the curtains at her windows, and she opens her front and back doors to her home and invites you inside to witness her Victory with domestic violence.
- 4 Wedding and a Funeral: Resilience in a Time of Grief, is a love story of a woman who had it all for many years: the career, the husband, the child, the close relationships with friends and relatives…and one day the script flipped. Author Jill Smolowe sat listening to her husband’s oncologist giving him a diagnosis of cancer with a gruesome prognosis: incurable. Her love story intensified as she found VICTORY in her new life as her husband’s caregiver.
- Not A Game: The Incredible Rise and Unthinkable Fall of Allen Iverson, author Kent Babb, outlines basketball superstar Allen Iverson, rise to VICTORY, and depicts his fall in the NBA. However, through it all Babb describes Iverson becoming acquainted with himself as the “person,” on his journey towards self-awareness.
Please, share with us some of your best books or your personal stories on Overcoming Adversity.
Parenting on my back was fueled in the parent-child relationship. In my life, the roles were reversed: my children became caregivers to me.
This unwelcome crisis was unexpectedly thrust into my existence in the prime of my life, when I was 37 years young, and the girls were 7 and 11 years of age. Rheumatoid arthritis stole my mobility and attacked my joints, leaving me motionless. I found myself using a wheelchair and having to rely on those “little hands” for such things as food, grooming, bathing, dressing, cooking and cleaning.
My challenge was to establish that even though the roles may have changed, the rules did not. I was still their mother. As they grew older, their need for independence also grew, and this became more and more difficult.
This experience taught me the importance of being open with my children and giving them a voice. With them, I was an open book when it came to such things as our finances and our family situation. In turn, I was also willing to listen and walk with them through their life journeys. I provided them a safe space where they could air their grievances about school, their social lives, anything.
Giving them a voice helped tremendously. I wanted them to feel that they weren’t my servants, but that even while I was parenting on my back, they were my little human beings that I loved and respected.
Join me as I continue to reveal the lessons I learned from parenting on my back in the weeks ahead. I would love to hear your comments and insights as I expand on this subject.
“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”–Mahatma Gandhi
My husband was chronically allergic to responsibility, coming into our lives when we were thriving, then abandoning us when we needed him the most. I wanted desperately to believe he could change, and so did my girls, but after a while, we accepted the fact that he would always be allergic to responsibility and that was who he was.
I still remember the time when my daughter, Jasmine, searched the house and looked out the window in vain for a sign of her daddy or his car. All she found was empty space, in the house and inside his car, parked in the carport—her dad was gone.
A while later, he stepped into our house, eager to reconcile, again. I knew little of the hidden fury Jazzy was harboring for her father. She was angry at him for abandoning us, for leaving her young hands to carry the burden of adulthood, and for never considering how it might make his children feel when he left.
Before I knew it, she was charging at him with a knife, chanting “I hate you! I hate you!”
Thankfully, no one was hurt, but I was greatly disturbed at what I had seen. I spoke to Jazzy gently about what happened.
“Jazzy, do you really hate your father?” I asked.
“I’m going to hate him until he decides to make amends to me,” she answered.
I confessed to her that I couldn’t say I knew exactly how she felt, but I did know this: Hate is the emotion that taints the spirit, destroys the body and robs the mind; all your power lands in the hands of the person you hate.
I told Jazzy that hate was like a boomerang. You think you’re throwing it at a person, but it comes right back and hits you instead. It makes you destroy yourself from the inside out. It steals your joy and it never benefits you.
I concluded my story, telling Jazzy, “Forgiveness is the key to alleviate hate and the key to you producing a life of abundance.”
Hate is a strong emotion, but forgiveness is stronger—forgiveness defeats hate.
Not only did rheumatoid arthritis affect me mentally and physically, but it also changed the way I saw myself. I went from seeing myself as an outgoing, productive, positive-thinking young woman to feeling like a vulnerable, hopeless, powerless burden to everyone. “Why am I still existing?” I puzzled.
I even prayed that God would take me home, not just for my own sake, but also for my family’s. A body in pain that couldn’t move was surely better suited for the painlessness and eternal bliss of Heaven than for being a mother that couldn’t do what other mothers could.
I couldn’t bear the emotional burden I placed on my girls. They had to sit and watch as their mother’s body deteriorated before their eyes. They also had to help their mother with the necessities many of us take for granted: food, water, and clothing.
And then, I considered the fact that I had looked to other members of my family for help, and I didn’t find it there. I thought to myself, “If I can’t even get help from my own family, what would happen to the girls if I disappeared?”
That thought was what gave me the will to go on. These girls needed a mother. That was my reason for existing. I wasn’t going to let anything stop me.
There was a Bible verse I had memorized a long time ago, yet only seemed to come alive at that time. “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” (Philippians 4:13). After I started acknowledging that my help came from God, my attitude changed. I no longer felt like a vulnerable, hopeless, powerless burden to everyone. If God wanted me to be there for my girls, I was going to be there.
No matter how my body looked, I was determined to believe God’s promises and to receive his abundant joy, the joy that comes from within. Whether or not my body moved was irrelevant. The joy was still there.
God put us in this situation for a reason: so we could rise above it. This is how God taught me to live fearlessly. There’s a difference between being alive and living. Are you investing time in the people you care about? Are you living each moment to the fullest? Are you pursuing those experiences that will allow you to better yourself and others?
Remind yourself: if “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me,” my only option is to live life fearlessly.